Sunday, 30 November 2008

Doesn't It Matter Anymore?

I want to start this off with a question: when you get new friends, do you ever wonder why you liked that person in the first place? Is it because they're funny, you have similar interests, or don't you care about any of you like them because of the way they look?!
Though some might not want to admit it, this is the first thing some people consider when it comes to choosing their friends or who they hang out with, they don't put anything else into consideration. I can definitely say this (in a way) applies to people in the schools I've gone too.. and even the school I'm at now.

Now I could be talking about seniors in high school, I could be talking about people in my year (who knows?), I could even be talking about people younger than me (actually I'm not... I wouldn't stoop that low) but I'm not talking about every single person in the school...thankfully not everyone thinks like this... but especially this year, people have become more materialistic and shallow when it comes to choosing their friends and who they generally talk to. I can think of a few new people for instance... they've only been at the school for about I don't know... 2-3 months, and they're already part of this "in crowd", they're already known by half of the school, they're already "BFFs" with people I've never been that close too, even if I've tried.

When seeing this, I see a pattern, because all these people that have fit in SO WELL just happen to have that look which is considered "attractive", they all wear Abercrombie, Hollister or any other of those American brands... some of them are even stinking rich.
This can't be fair on the other students of the school, the ones that have been there longer than them, some that have even been there for at least 5 years, the ones that have spent their whole time at the school TRYING to be accepted by these people, just for the new students to come along and fit in almost straight away like it's nothing!! Not only this but the fact that this is happening PROVES my theory in a previous post that you have to be either Swedish, blonde or speak a second language in order to properly fit in.

I look at some these new people, and how many people they all of a sudden know after a short space of time, and how some people are already in love with them and I wonder: If it wasn't for their looks or how much money they have...would they be so popular right now??

The answer to that is probably no. The truth is, there are some people out there who will befriend anyone to get what they want; whether it's something materialistic, connections, or maybe just popularity to up their status in school. Why is it only this year that people have started to become so shallow?! If someone was to ask you why you started talking to that person in the first place, do you know how bad it would sound if you came out with "It's because he's hot" or "Because she's rich" or "Because they can get me into certain places"?!

Don't get me wrong, I don't feel jealous of these people who have fit in so quickly, if I feel anything it's pity, because half the time these people don't realise WHY so many people began to like them in the first place... they haven't figured out yet that it's based on what they have and what they look like instead of who they truly are as a person. Some of them haven't realised that they're being USED. Unfortunately, some of them will never know. Some of them will never find this out because they're too stuck in this other world... this world that will never be like the real world.

Let me ask you something...How would YOU feel if someone didn't like you because of what you had (or didn't have) and what you look like?? Oh wait...some of you would NEVER understand that feeling would you?! Some of you are stuck in this fantasy world were everything is "perfect", where you're constantly surrounded by others and how it's all about you.
Well I can tell you this, it's not a nice feeling. For someone to judge you before they've even gotten to know you on a personal level is wrong, because they'll NEVER know the real you, even if other people were to tell you things about yourself.

These people who only like others materialistically and look wise...will they EVER know the real person underneath that?? Let's face it, once you look past some of these people's riches, their looks and all the things they have, you'll find that some of them have as much personality as a Barbie you'd pick up at Toys 'r' Us. But then again, they'll probably never look at them that deeply, because they don't genuinely care for that person.

If being fully accepted into such a society means that I have to change my appearence, be rich or just wear Abercrombie & Fitch every other day, then I'd rather not be accepted by everyone if not most people. It's times like these where I want to leave such a place and go somewhere else...but that being said, how do I know if people in another school/area don't have the same judgements or mindset?? Only one way to find out...

Make Up: A Must Have Or Just A Waste Of Money?


....If to name a few. These are examples of the cosmetic products that the media makes females believe they need to have in order to look beautiful, or simply just to "enhance our features".
Anyone could tell you that the cosmetic industry is huge, as it always comes out with some new product that is said to make someone look younger, said to be "better" for your skin, or even last for 24 hours; products that quite a lot (but not all) females purchase, as they are convinced they'll look better than they did before. But do we really need all of this? Will we look fine without them? Do these products actually do what they say on the label?

As females some of us are actually convinced that yes, we DO need these products, and that it's some kind of sin not to wear at least one of these things on a daily basis, when we don't truly need them, the media has just slightly brainwashed us into thinking we do. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that make up is a terrible thing and that the media is evil (ok..they probably are), I admit though I usually don't have any on, I wear make up every now and then...when I feel like it, but even then it's just eyeliner, a bit of mascara, MAYBE some eyeshadow to parties, but that's about it takes me no more than 5 minutes to put on...I don't feel the need to spend 10-20 minutes with concealer, foundation, blush and any more of that crap, because it truly is a waste of time to do that every day.

I know girls who will refuse to step out of the house without some mascara on at least because they think they look horrible with their faces just bare...I even know girls who believe make up is a waste of time and money, but despite this they still wear it everyday as it makes them feel better about themselves, I also know girls that own and wear so much of the stuff, that at times you can't help but wonder if they're trying to cover up or hide insecurities they have;
how did things become so bad? Why are people so influenced by the media, taking in all the false messages it spreads without realising the point that there are teenage girls out there who actually feel ugly with the way they naturally are?! I don't know about you, but I know many people who look great (if not better) without make up on, this is because their face isn't masked with these products that cover it up, so their natural beauty shines through, something which is alot more genuine than what they portray in the media...

Now I'm not saying that wearing make up on a daily basis makes you a brainwashed person who has insecurities to hide...if you choose to wear it so frequently thats your choice, but ask yourself these questions the next time your putting it on:

Are you wearing it because you want to...
Are you wearing it because you feel you're ugly without it, so you HAVE to put some on in order to look good ...
Are you wearing it because you're hoping to cover up or hide some sort of insecurity..
Are you wearing it to express yourself...
Or simply because you feel like it?

There are many more questions I could put...but I'll stick to those ones;
if your answer is yes to the 2nd and 3rd question, then you need to learn to love yourself the way you naturally are...because the truth is, even with all of that on your face, at times, it will never be enough...they'll still be a part of you that is insecure about something or another, even with all that make up on.

Tuesday, 11 November 2008

What Happens Then?

Some people actually think that living the rich life is great, that it's this amazing lifestyle that must be ALOT better than being middle class or even poor. Part of the reason some people think this is because of... you guessed it: The Media.
With all these fictional and real life programs such as The Hills, The OC, Laguna Beach, Gossip Girl, My Super Sweet 16, or any more of that mindless crap they show on the TV that comes from the US, some people out there actually believe that the only way you can fun and actually enjoy life to the full, is if you're rich... which people should generally KNOW isn't true, because (though I haven't experienced it), living the rivh life isn't THAT great (See my Money Money Money post for more on that).

With these over spoilt rich girls on programmes like My Super Sweet 16, who's best friend is most likely their Mum or Dad's credit card... do they ever think or wonder what will happen to them once they get out into the REAL world, where NOTHING is going to be handed to them on a plate and that for one of the first times in their life, their gonna have to get off their lazy arses and actually lift one of their "precious" manicured fingers and work? Let's face it...they're not always going to be under the thumb of their parents, they're not always going to have things handed to them on a plate when they ask for it or have others doing basic things for them when they actually do it themselves at such an age.

Thankfully this doesn't apply to all rich teenagers that age...after all, some of them do appreciate the fact that their parents worked hard to give them the things they have, and that it didn't happen easy for them... and that it won't happen easy for them either. For the others however, once they finally do get there into the real world, they'll rely on others so much that they won't go anywhere in the real world...either that or they'll have to realise how things actually work (that'll have to be done extremely quickly!)

Oh well...that's what happens when you're literally spoon fed everything you got your whole life, you pay the price for it later...and it will hit you, HARD.

One more those who think these people have a perfect life, don't belive that for one second...they probably just use all that money and riches to cover up things.

Remember..."Money Can't Buy You Happiness..."

Do We Trust People TOO Much?

It seems that quite a few people out there open up to people a bit too much, especially when it comes to their friends... some of these friends might not even truthfully like us, they might act one way with you and be completely different with others...

It's these kinda people that should be looked out for, as they're the sneaky ones who probably talk about you the most; they're the ones who won't stop until they find your weakness or one of your insecurities, and when things go wrong, they'll use that against you as they'll know it will hurt you. To be frank, how long you've known or haven't known a person has nothing to do with how much you can trust them. I can think of quite a few people who are "BFFs" or whatever you want to call it with someone, and that someone talks about that other friend behind their back as if they even hated them sometimes =S.

I don't know about you but I've experienced this distrust thing...too many times. I've known people who I thought I could trust and they did nothing but betray that. I even had one of those "best friends" that I'd known since I was about 4...but based on the subject of this article, you can kinda guess what happened between me and them. Even after that happened, I still trusted people too much, I opened up to them unnecessarily and I told them TOO much personally... and while not all of them did this, some of them chose to use it against me later on.
Hopefully, now I've learned from my mistakes, now I'm just going to trust that small circle of people and no more than that; as far as I know, others I don't know that well will just use my trust to their advantage and stab me in the back at any moment...

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that people shouldn't open up to anyone, and I hope I don't sound paranoid when I say this, but people should choose who they trust wisely and be more careful...because we never know what some of our friends could be saying about us when we're not around, meaning that we might not really be sure on which one of those friends are genuine and true...and not just another lying deceitful backstabber =/.

Sunday, 9 November 2008

He's Done It :)...But Are America Ready For Him As A Whole?

As we all know by know, Chicago Senator Barack Obama has been elected as the 44th President of the US. Now while this is great news for most people living in this country as well as other places, there are still a percentage of people out there such as some Republicans who believe that Obama was the wrong choice and that McCain should've won instead... But why do exactly they think this? It is because he'll raise taxes once in the White House, is it because he's a Democrat and isn't necessarily on the same page as them, or is it simply because he's a man of colour?
The fact that Obama was more popular than McCain in the votes is a good thing, as it shows that those American citizens who voted for Obama no longer see race as an issue when it comes to who runs their country, it's a sign that most Americans have moved on from the days in the 60s when there was extreme segregation in America amongst blacks and whites...But what about the others? What about the ones who have the same mindset that the average American had all those years ago?

While all McCain supporters aren't racist, like I've said before, some people were supporting McCain just because his opponent (Obama) was black...and it seems like some of these supporters will do almost anything to get rid of Obama now that he's won the election; even when it was just between him and Hillary Clinton, one or two men (or maybe more) were arrested and maybe even sentenced to prison, as they were making plots to kill Obama, plots a few of them tried to carry out before fortunately getting stopped. This is definitely a major problem Obama is facing, even with the secret service protecting him...because there are still Americans out there who don't like seeing a black man in power, they're scared to see such history being made in the 21st century, they're scared to see change, a change that their country definitely needs.

In the US, black people have come so far as a race; from the days of separation in the 50s etc. and being told that we are worth nothing, to now in the 21st century having a black man running the White House and possibly being the most powerful man in the world; something that is telling the world that we are something and that we have overcome. Many non black Americans have come to accept this, however some still haven't and choose not to move on from the old fashion ways. Now as time goes by, while this percentage of people will perhaps decrease, they will always be there whether we like it or not. They'll always be people in America who will refuse or like anything that's different from them...which means that there will always be those few people in America that have a problem with Obama. But as long as there are those who support him all the way and his ideas, that will be a something that will keep the faith he has for America alive

Wednesday, 5 November 2008

Yes We Can...We Can Indeed :D

Obama has done it!!!...not only is he the next president of the US but he's made history by being the first black man to be in this position...
Unfortunately I couldn't vote =[, but I'm happy America made the right decision about who would lead their country.

This is a great day, a day people will always remember as one of those things that changed things for the better...

Here's his speech